Preparing the Mind to Win is about winning the battle against our fears. I believe when we challenge ourselves to achieve any goal, we have at least one major fear attached to that particular goal. Why? Because often new experiences create a certain level of anxiety only because it is a new experience for us. As creatures of habit we become comfortable with creating repetitive behavior and thoughts even though these patterns may not serve our greater good. Even if the experience of the unknown is our fear then we need to identify what may prevent us from wanting to create a new experience for ourselves.
Just as the concept of competition is an illusion, so often is the concept of fear. Now there are many things we should be afraid of to keep ourselves safe. Do not confuse fear of getting run over by a truck if you step out in front of one to the fear of stepping out of your comfort zone to work hard at achieving your life dream. One of those fears will send you to the hospital and the other may send you to your God given journey of abundance of love and joy. The fear I refer to are the illusions we often adopt from another person due to their perception of success. It can even be a fear we adopt ourselves due to a negative experience we once had, and used that experience as an excuse to remain frozen in our path to success.
By identifying your fear, you understand how much of that fear is reality and how much is an illusion created by the perception of what you considered to be truth. When I began competing in pageantry in college, I participated in local pageants for the opportunity to compete in my state preliminary for a national pageant. This was one of my first pageants, so I worked very hard on perfecting my talent competition. Among 10 or so contestants I was somewhere in the middle, and I will never forget what happened when it came my turn to sing. I began my first few sentences with the microphone working, then suddenly the mic stopped working. Never having experienced this before, I continued singing because I could see one of their former winners with her crown and banner, standing in front of the doorway that led to the small area the sound system was stored.
As I continued trying to sing as loud as I could, the sound of my voice was not easily heard and I saw one of my family members walk back to the doorway where the Director and queen now were and the queen was blocking the doorway and would not allow anyone in to fix the sound system. After I completed my song, I walked off the stage and turned around in time to see her walk back into the sound room. The next contestant quickly took her place to sing and the microphone worked perfectly once again from that point on. Needless to say, I did not place in that local pageant and it broke my heart. Not because the judges didn’t get to hear me sing, but because I felt the microphone not working was something that could have been remedied.
As I drove home that night, I swore I would never compete in another pageant again. My heart was broken, I was embarrassed, and I felt emotionally defeated. I had adopted the illusion that pageants were somehow unethical, and it took me months to get the nerve to try another local pageant. Not only did I win the next local pageant, but went on to place in the top 4 at the state pageant later that year. While preparing my mind to win, I had to defeat my greatest fear so I could continue moving forward in my pageant journey. The fear for me was understanding that I could not control the actions of another person, but I could control how I reacted to circumstances beyond my control. I chose to react by staying determined to compete at the state level and showcase my singing to an audience, just for my love of performing. The greatest moment for me was not that I achieved the honor of third runner-up at the state pageant, but what happened immediately after the pageant. The queen who pulled the mic cord during my performance at the first local pageant, approached me on stage after photographs and placed her hand on my arm and apologized to me. She had tears in her eyes and I saw the light of God in her spirit, and knew she was truly sorry. I forgave her that moment, and knew what it felt like to win the battle over my greatest fear.
What are you doing to prepare your mind to win the battle against your fear? Today is the day to seize your moments and create your experiences fresh and in an attitude of gratitude. Until next time, live inspired Miracle Workers! Click here to order your copy of Preparing the Mind to Win!