Do you want to know the secret to winning pageants or winning in life? The foundation of our goals in life and on the stage is built from the amount of confidence we possess. It isn’t something you can imitate but created from knowing we we are, what we have to offer, and how well we communicate these qualities to others. One of my interview questions when I won the Mrs. International Pageant was to define the difference between confidence and arrogance. What a great question! I believe that confidence is an energy we radiate when we understand our purpose in our own journey and are able to come from a place of contribution to help the lives of others with what we have to share. Arrogance stems from lack of self-worth and not truly understanding ourselves enough to realize everything we desire to experience lies within us not outside of us.

As you prepare for your upcoming interviews whether this is a college, job, or pageant interview, realize how you share the best parts of yourself will determine whether or not you get hired for the job. The days of being a ‘pageant patty’ are over and the person who knows themselves the best is the person who has connected the most to that position that everyone is applying for. If you coach is telling you what to say and how to say it, then you replace your genuine self with a version of someone else and you will come across detached from the interviewer and robotic. The role of your coach is to help you dig deep beyond the cobwebs and help you discover your purpose and how you will come from contribution sharing that purpose.

Since confidence comes from within, you must first feel confident within yourself. If you are being told what to say and how to say it, doesn’t this remove any opportunity to share the real you with another person? In fact, this would create a sense of unworthiness because you are in essence being told that you are not good enough to bring into the interview room and you have to pretend to be someone else in order to get the job. Trust your instinct and push beyond your comfort zone so you can feel prepared mind, body, and soul for your next competition.